During the menopause tremendous new understandings are asserting themselves in our lives with such force that they seem to upset all our past ways of thinking. However, this is only a problem of perspective. At this time we are in the middle of these changes and cannot see the relationship between our new consciousness and our old.
This is a period of tremendous psychological insights and change, but not much stability, alas. Therefore we should keep our life circumstances fluid enough that we can make changes as necessary. This is not a time to try and build. At this stage, we are better off as observers.
It is perfectly natural to experience confusion, doubt and uncertainty. One should wait for the situation to settle down, trying to minimize the elements of her life that require her to make long-range commitments, because our changing consciousness will make it difficult to continue such a commitment. If old goals lose their meaning, that is what must be. eventually new goals will enter our life that will better fit our new state of mind.
This revolution in ideas and consciousness is a fundamental part of our life, and it must be allowed to pursue its own course.
How can yogic meditation help?
Meditation is first just observation. So what happens when we observe? In observation, the mind shifts from thinking to awareness. When thinking is predominant, attention is absorbed internally within a stream of thoughts. Thought is a limited, material construct, a representation of reality. In awareness, attention is open, at one with a changing, unfixed reality. Observation is a relaxed alertness that requires no effort.
Sitting quietly, doing nothing, not knowing what is next and not concerned with what was or what may be next, a new mind is operating that is not connected with the conditioned past and yet perceives and understands the whole mechanism of conditioning. It is the unmasking of the self that is nothing but masks—images, memories of past experiences, fears, hopes, and the ceaseless demand to be something or become somebody. This new mind that is no-mind is free of duality—there is no doer in it and nothing to be done.